Discover. Adapt. Thrive.

Unlocking the science of you.

There’s never been more information on how to live well.

Most approaches overlook one crucial part of being human:

The nervous system.

Grounded in science, shaped by living.

We teach the biology of transformation – how the nervous system shapes how you think, feel, connect and perform.

WHAT – Learn how your nervous system shapes communication, leadership, relationships, creativity and decision-making.
WHY – Build a science-based understanding of stress, overwhelm, reactivity, anxiety, procrastination, avoidance and more.
HOW – Practise tools that improve emotional regulation, resilience, confidence, teamwork and long-term effectiveness.

This is nervous system literacy: the missing skill for wellbeing and resilience.

What we do…

    • Learn how your nervous system and trauma drive behaviour

    • Regulate your emotions and develop your nervous system

    • Create positive change using neuroscience-based tools and techniques

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    • Understand emotional regulation, resilience and the nervous system

    • Explore the science of dopamine, distraction and getting stuff done

    • Equip staff to support and educate students and parents about self-harm

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    • Build emotional intelligence and nervous system literacy

    • Improve resilience, motivation and performance

    • Learn how the nervous system and trauma drive behaviour

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“Nervous system literacy is the missing link between knowing yourself and achieving real impact – because once we understand the science of us, everything changes.”

For individuals + professionals:

Regulation | Transformation

Harnessing the science of the nervous system for growth and resilience

Havening Techniques are a neuroscience-based approach that uses the power of the nervous system to release stored stress, regulate emotions, process stored memories and re-encode a sense of safety.

The result is lasting change – more calm, faster growth, greater confidence and increased resilience.

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For schools, youth organisations + families…

Rethinking self-harm and emotional resilience

The huge rise in teenage self-harm speaks volumes about the challenges young people face.

We offer a science-based approach to understanding and talking about self-harm – one that eliminates shame and creates opportunities for long-term emotional resilience.

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The Lovely Messy Brain series - coming soon!

A growing collection of quick guides for teens, parents and educators:

Master your motivation – Dopamine, distraction and how to get things done
Feel-good chemistry – Understanding endorphins
Stress mode – Cortisol and the nervous system
How to calm – Emotional regulation 101

This is where it all started, and it’s still at the heart of what we do…

Support for self-harm and emotional regulation

Our science-backed, compassion-led training and resources are helping schools, organisations and parents change the conversation around self-harm.

Download our free guide for parents here.

Meet Beth

Beth Derry founded Lovely Messy Humans after a two-decade career in sustainability. Now a mum of two teengers, she has helped some of the world's best known companies navigate and communicate about complex challenges.

Beth's lived experience is that she self-harmed as a university student and she talks candidly this time - sharing the knowledge she wishes someone had shared with her 25 years ago.

We are a small team are have developed our approach carefully in conversation with professionals and experts, educators, parents and young people.

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Testimonials

  • "The guidance you provided was tangible, helpful and reassuring. It was pitched well, so both experienced and less experienced staff were able to learn. They felt that your lived experience gave it an authenticity which was humbling. Thank you again for your time and support. It’s been so valuable and we're looking forward to working with you further."

    Roedean School

  • “Thank you so much for the training, we’re all excited from taking in the amazing information. We are really keen to work with you and to share our experience from working with our young people.”

    Youth Charity, Wakefield

  • "Beth is incredible at what she does. Within minutes of talking to her she knows what to invite you to explore. Every time I have felt safe, heard, held and loved, and have been able to experience emotions I never knew were there."

    Private coaching client

  • “Keep doing what you're doing. This has been really inspiring and has broken down the stigma of self-harm. It will undoubtedly have a huge impact on the way I work with clients.”

    NHS Mental Health Professional

  • “I’m so pleased I signed up for this - well worth taking two hours out of my day to learn, reflect and discuss.”

    Secondary School Head Teacher

  • I learnt a lot through counselling about myself and why I self-harmed, but it's so interesting to learn about the science - it explains so much"

    Student, age 18

  • "I recently attended your webinar as a parent of a child who self-harms, and I wanted to share my gratitude for the invaluable information provided. It shed light on the underlying reasons for my child's behavior and offered a new perspective on how to support them effectively."

    Parent

  • "I wanted to take the opportunity to thank you. In the past two years, I've spoken and seen so many people but you have been so far the most engaging. I love your approach and I'm sure you will be able to support and help many struggling teenagers."

    Parent of a teenage coaching client